I am a woman living with HERPES. And most people think of herpes as disgusting. That’s not at all whats happening. Sure outbreaks burn a little and make you feel yucky. But I’m aware today that I’m not yucky. I caught the herpes from a guy that assured me that he was tested and very clean. Yet he still gave me herpes. Now THAT’S whats yucky.
I’m not sure when it happened, its really hard to tell. I do know when it broke out my fever was through the roof. My whole body was sore. My crotch was an inferno, and felt like burning charcoal was in my panties.
When I went to the doctor, the nurse thought Id wiped to hard and irritated myself, but she screened for STD”s anyway.
Five excruciatingly painful days later, I got a call from my primary saying sorry about saying you had wiped yourself to a skin irritation. I was then informed that I had tested positive for (HSV-2) HERPES!!! A virus that can also manifest itself with skin out-breaks on, In, and around the mouth area. I was stunned and began crying.
Don’t worry, a lot of people have it and dont even know it. And most people go years with no out-breaks.
That comment fell on deaf ears, I felt unlovable and felt my world had changed forever. I became deeply depressed and drank alcohol to ease the emotional pain. I started missing days at work, missing appointments and not really caring for anything. I felt filthy and thought everybody knew my dirty little secret. I just knew no-one would love me……………..EVER!!
Turns out, them thoughts were wrong on so many levels. Love did find its way to me. That feeling of loneliness vanished. I learned (HERPES) is a very ordinary affliction, with studies showing that 1 in 7 individuals ranging from the age of 16 to 50 in the United States are ( HERPES) positive.And its likely the figures will rise.
But the ignominy-shame does continue. And its totally groundless, unfounded and entirely deceptive. I never did and do not need to feel as such. But the general public had me thinking I did. I had my share of sexual exploits as a young woman, and now was being judged because of it.
I then proceeded to penalize myself. Staying clear of any potential dating partners all together. I ended up in isolation. I just could not have that talk with myself about (HERPES). I still was in shock and still couldn’t believe I had (HSV-2). I felt gross, but I was NOT gross. I just wasn’t educated that’s ALL!
Now I’m joyfully in a solid relationship with with a wonderful person, who is aware of my infection, and has absolutely no problem with it. I take a great viral medication daily and have not suffered through an out-break in 2 years. He doesn’t carry the virus and makes me feel the very opposite of [YUCKY]!!
I started loving myself and flourished, learning to live with with (HERPES)- and if you have the unfortunate happenstance to be diagnosed with (HSV-2), you most certainly are able to live a good life also. Just stay protected and educated. That’s your beginning NOT end.
I spoke with a very reputable M.D. to sought through some myths concerning the HERPES virus. Its time to blow the lid off the lies.
(WHY DOES THIS MATTER?)
Look!! the bottom line is most people are misinformed about the herpes virus. Its not armageddon.
Here is the deal about the facts of this familiar STD, and I will provide answers to most pressing questions on co-existing with herpes.
(ONE) HOW IS HERPES SPREAD?
HERPES (both HSV-1 and HSV-2) is transmitted by skin to skin contact-which occurs alot in sexual contact or closeness, but can also occur during non-sexual contact such as touching or kissing, like from a parent or child. Genital herpes can be passed on from a pregnant mom to a child during child birth, although it’s not common.
(TWO) ARE OUT-BREAKS THE ONLY TIME ITS SPREAD?
Stop having sex at the on-set of any and all symptoms associated with an out-break. Symptoms include itching, tingling feeling, burning sensation around the mouth area, or on the genitals. Abstain from oral, vaginal or anal sex-even using a condom-until a week after symptoms cease or the blister heals. The virus transmits from any area not covered by the condom. Saliva and vaginal fluids as well as sweat can pass virus.
(THREE) HOW TO KNOW YOU CARRY THE VIRUS, SYMPTOMS???
When an individual has oral herpes “cold sores” or fever blisters appear on the lips and or around the mouth. These sores could be in the mouth also, but normally that happens the first time oral herpes appear. Majority of people with genital herpes have no symptoms, or mild symptoms that they ignore assuming its a rash or slight skin irritation. Genital herpes manifestations include blisters, pointed pain or burning feelings if urine comes in contact with sores. An inability to urinate if there is severe swelling or blockage of the urethra. Also open sores itching and pain in the contaminated area.
(FOUR) EXPLAINING FLARE-UPS
When herpes makes its second visit, its called a reappearance or outbreak. Herpes doesn’t always come back, and when it does, the schedule and severeness changes from individual to individual. Some people go years without outbreaks. Some have them more often. Most recurrences happen during the first year. If your immune system is weak outbreaks may happen more often.
(FIVE) EXPLAINING COLD SORES AS OPPOSED TO GENITAL HERPES.
Herpes is a familiar infection, the root being 2 dissimilar yet jointly connected viruses (HSV1 and HSV2). Both easily transmitted, both continue to exist in the body for life, and symptoms come and go. Oral herpes can be passed to genitals by oral sex. Both strains can live in either part of the body, (and also the eyes). So a person with one type can pass another the exact kind of herpes even to different parts of the body.
(SIX) IF MY PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE HERPES, AND WE USE A CONDOM CAN IT STILL BE PASSED??
Condom use in between outbreaks will cut down risk factor significantly of passing virus. ( but NOT 100%). Some risk can also be cut down by infected individuals by taking anti-herpes medication daily.
(SEVEN) HOW DO I TEST FOR HERPES AND CAN I TEST DURING RELAPSE OF OUTBREAK?
A qualified health care professional can identify (HERPES) virus by conducting a physical exam and test. A test of blood can identify genital or oral herpes, regardless of symptoms or not. Test on fluids from sores can also achieve the same results. Don’t ignore liaisons in target areas, get tested immediately if so.
(EIGHT) CAN HERPES BE CURED?
Anti-viral medications are extremely beneficial. There is no cure. Nevertheless outbreaks happen less and less, and become less painful and weaker as time passes. If you have (HERPES), medications are readily available to assist in management of the infection. Medicines are very effective in speeding up the healing of sores and stopping them from returning habitually.
(NINE) HOW DO I PUT A STOP TO HERPES TRANSMISSION?
Steer clear of touching any sores you might have. On the chance you do, wash your hands with some kind of detergent/soap and water. (don’t rely on hand sanitizers). No sexual contact during sore period. If sex does happen, be sure to use a condom or dental dam. Most critical time to worry about passing is during an out-break, but having no symptoms does not guarantee no passing. Eat healthy, get adequate sleep, and avoid stress to help minimize recurrences. Avoid sunburn if you have oral (HERPES). Staying healthy and taking care of your body is important. Also know your risk and protect yourself.
(TEN) BREAKING THE NEWS TO POTENTIAL PARTNER
Take a deep breath, calm yourself, and above all remember honesty is the best policy . It will definitely not be the most comfortable discussion your have ever had, but here are some tips to help ease the transition.
- Know questions will be asked. Research your facts ( like this article) so you know what your speaking.
- Set time where you will not be interrupted at key moments of discussion.
- Talk comes before sex, not after.
- Be easy on yourself, your not on trial. Its a health concern not a character issue.